Win-Lose is a way of thinking and relating based upon a paradigm of scarcity, that the resources needed for survival and success are limited, and therefore must be fought for. This view of life says that ” I don’t need to feel bad about winning at the expense of another, because life itself is unfair.”
As Stephen Covey describes in his best selling book, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.”
“Win-Lose is a way of thinking in which people use their advantages of position, power, credentials, possessions or personality to get their way” usually at the expense of people who don’t have these advantages.
Later he writes;
“All people are deeply scripted since birth in the Win-Lose mentality.”
Win-Lose has been around ever since humans began forming clans and tribes, when men felt it necessary to compete for limited available resources like food from a hunt, sexual partners, protection from other clans etc. After generations of life experiences confirming it, eventually this way of thinking became deeply ingrained in the psyche of the whole society and has been passed on unconsciously from one generation to the next. Today, virtually everyone views the world as a place in which we need to compete for our fair share of the pie of limited resources.
In the past, those with advantages like physical strength, political savvy, better weapons, ended up becoming tribal leaders, feudal lords, Kings and Emperors ruling over the majority who possessed fewer of these advantages.
Today, those with advantages of higher education, inherited wealth, business or political connections, sporting prowess, sexuality ……, continue to exploit people and nature, which is why we see society becoming increasingly divided between the haves and the have not’s, and environmental problems arising at an alarming rate.
These conditions were evident even back in the 1800’s when the French political economist Frederic Bastiat said;
“When plunder becomes a way of life for a group of men living together in society, they create for themselves in the course of time a legal system that authorizes it and a moral code that glorifies it.”
The attitude of Win-Lose is the root cause of all past and present conflicts, divisions, and immorality.
In his hard hitting essay, A Terrible Normality Michael Parenti, a professor of political science from Yale University, shows the consequences of this manipulation.
The video, The Money Masters by Bill Still, shows how powerful bankers have manipulated entire countries, creating financial crises and wars, for their own personal gain.
Scott Nobles’ video, Psywars also shows how the corporate elite use Win-Lose to manipulate people into becoming docile consumers.
Let us hasten to add that we are NOT trying to make you feel depressed or hopeless, to the contrary, this is a necessary first step to open our minds to what is inside each one of us, so that we can learn what we are up against.
So now that we know that social problems originate in our thinking, the words of Albert Einstein make more sense;
“a problem cannot be solved using the same thinking that produced it.”
To learn about the next stage, please continue to About Win-Win and then go on to About Synergy.